Two situations, very similar to each other in the past two days where in one the girl, and the other the guy were not making their relationship known.
Here’s my vent story on this: if you’re not going to be proud to be in a relationship, then you should question yourself why you’re hiding it. I mean, there could be no direct correlation to you hiding your relationship and there being problems, but nevertheless, it can create an unruly environment for you and the person you are with.
Problems that can arise are trust issues, lack of communication, misunderstandings, and others that will eventually lead to arguments. No one wants to argue in a relationship, although figuratively speaking, it is healthy for couples to argue, but not every day.
It’s not really about “pride” in being in the relationship, and I understand some couples like to keep their relationship on the “low” so their business isn’t really out in the open. That’s respectable, that’s acceptable. But if you’re completely hiding that you’re in a relationship, you don’t really show affection to who you’re with, it can be taken that you are not happy to be with them.
This is something that I have personally experienced (or done, really…) I did not take pride in the relationship I was in, and I never mentioned anything about it, I never talked about it, blogged about it, brought it up in conversation, put it up on facebook, nothing. I did everything I could to keep it unknown. You could only imagine how many fights that had brought up.
Treat your boyfriend/girlfriend right. If you love them, they deserve to know that you do, and sometimes personal ways aren’t enough. You know that saying, “To the world, you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world” well… If they’re your world, I’m sure they want the world to know that, and they’ll do the same for you.